Our Journey to Adoption, Part XI - Clarity After the Fact

As it looked more likely we could be the adoptive family for James and Sarah, Joe and I started looking at bigger homes. We were in a 2 bedroom 1 ½ bath condo that I had owned for almost 13 years. James and Sarah shared a room, but often woke each other up in the night or during nap time.

After looking a little bit, we decided it might be too much change at once! Being able to give James and Sarah their own room was a want more than a need, at least while they are little. We thought we should postpone looking for the time being.

However, a couple weeks later, my Mom got a call from a local family friend who said she was thinking about selling her house but hadn’t put it on the market yet. We looked at the house and liked it! She didn’t give us a price, so we made what we thought was a fair offer. She counter-offered, though, and we weren’t comfortable paying more. After much deliberation and prayer, we were led to walk away. The owner then planned to list the house.

A couple days later, the owner called us back and said she (and her grown children) decided she wasn’t in a position to get her house ready to list and show so she would go with our original offer. I couldn’t believe it! God clearly confirmed He had picked and provided this house just for us! It certainly wasn’t clear in the midst of all the deliberating. I had been confused why He led us to walk away when I felt like He had directed us to the house, but now it all made sense!

Jesus told His disciples many things they would only understand after His death and resurrection. Everything didn’t all make sense initially.

John 14:18-21, 28-29  ¹⁸ I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. ¹⁹ Before long, the world will not see me anymore, but you will see me. Because I live, you also will live. ²⁰ On that day you will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you. ²¹ Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. The one who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love them and show myself to them.” …²⁸ “You heard me say, ‘I am going away and I am coming back to you.’ If you loved me, you would be glad that I am going to the Father, for the Father is greater than I. ²⁹ I have told you now before it happens, so that when it does happen you will believe.

We’re to obey God, even when it doesn’t make sense or we think we have a better idea. He knows bests! Often we can look back and understand what He was doing, but only after the fact. If Joe and I had gone with the counter-offer we would have gotten the house God had for us, but we wouldn’t have experienced the peace and joy of His clear confirmation!

Alice

The Best Man

Two are better than one,
    because they have a good return for their labor:
 If either of them falls down,
    one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
    and has no one to help them up. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Over my life, I have had amazing people whose existence has blessed me.  In my family, I have two brothers and a brother in law, and I have these amazing group of men who are like brothers and are always there for and supportive of me.  Some send me scripture, and others give me encouragement.  A few keep my spirits up, and yet another instills in me the confidence to move forward.  One however has been with me since my childhood.  We may not always be around and we are distant from each other, but the comradery we have when we are together is both unmistakable and unshakable.  While he is not directly my brother, he might as well be as he has been with me all of my life.  I pray for him for he has always been there for me, and should he need me, I will be there for him.  Beyond a shadow of a doubt, he is my best man!

We can have no greater friend than Jesus, and He blesses us with people who are always there for us.  For those of us blessed with a spouse, they represent a special kind of relationship that is blessed by God.  As pointed out in Ecclesiastes, there is clearly another type of relationship that is intended by God for our protection.  These are people who God places in our life.  I once read that a true friend is someone who will come over, drive with you, and dig where you can bury the body, and not ask any questions.  Now that is certainly extreme, but it speaks to the kind of loyalty a blessed best friend has for you.  Furthermore, they can be one who is a guide who point out blind spots or be a mentor in your spiritual journey.  Even Jesus had such a friend in Peter.  Even though Peter would deny Him, Jesus turns to Peter asking him to take care of the others and spread the word of the Gospel (see John 21:15-18).  While it is true that God is the only person who will never fail us, He would not have us stay in our own confines like a hermit.  We are to reach out to others trusting God as our protector for as it later says, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.” (Ecclesiastes 4:12a)

We were not meant to lead a life of solitary confinement.  While the world is indeed a dangerous place run by those who would attempt to bring us down, we have a God who is with us every step of the way.  Along those lines, we must trust Him as we reach out to others with full confidence.  Although we at times will be disappointed, we will find someone God truly intended for us, and it will lead to fellowship with others under Him.  So remove all that may impede on building a lasting Godly relationship.  Trust in God, and trust in a true friend.  Who can you extend your trust to for the sake of building a more Godly relationship?  What friend could use more of the God in you?  My prayer is that we all trust in God to provide us guidance in finding our ‘Best Man.’ Amen.

Tues Devo: Identity

1 Corinthians 3:21-23 “So then let no one boast in men. For all things belong to you, whether Paul or Apollos or Cephas or the world or life or death or things present or things to come; all things belong to you, and you belong to Christ; and Christ belongs to God.” (NASB)

Hello,

I have been thinking a lot this past week about the concept of identity. As a believer in Christ I want to say that my main identification point is as a Christian, a follower of Christ. But how is this known? I believe that this is known in our times of stress. When something goes wrong at work, what is the reaction? How long will it put you in a funk? When the kids put on large amounts of stress, how soon and in what manner do you approach Christ in prayer? When friendships hit a wall, where does your mind go (and for how long)?

Certainly we are not perfect. We make mistakes, we stay in the wrong attitude too long. But what I am getting at here is that if our identity is to be in Christ, which should be reflected as the center point of our attention in the midst of stress in other areas. Our identity is something that should come through in all circumstances. It doesn’t mean we don’t struggle through it, but that we clearly hold to Him in the struggle.

I hope that if you have been struggling with things around work, family or friends that this encourages you to step back and look at your identity, and let that identity drive your choices and attitude. As a believer, we belong to Christ – lets hold firm in that identity.

Have a blessed day,

Will Hill