Have you ever had a friend try to give you encouragement or helpful advice that was not helpful, encouraging or even true?
Job’s friends started out well. They compassionately
sat with him for 7 days and watched his misery in silence. After Job’s lament
in chapter 3, one of his friends tried to speak encouragement.
Job 4:1-9 Then
Eliphaz the Temanite replied:
2 “If someone ventures a word with you, will you be
impatient?
But who can keep from speaking?
3 Think
how you have instructed many,
how you have strengthened feeble hands.
4 Your
words have supported those who stumbled;
you have strengthened faltering knees.
5 But
now trouble comes to you, and you are discouraged;
it strikes you, and you are dismayed.
6 Should
not your piety be your confidence
and your blameless ways your hope?
7 “Consider now: Who, being innocent, has ever perished?
Where were the upright ever destroyed?
8 As
I have observed, those who plow evil
and those who sow trouble reap it.
9 At
the breath of God they perish;
at the blast of his anger they are no more.
Eliphaz recognized Job’s wise instruction to others and his help to the weak. However, he was confused by Job’s discouragement over his tragic circumstances. He didn’t understand why Job didn’t “know” that evil comes to those who do evil and innocent people don’t suffer.
Eliphaz needed to stop after verse 4. He could highlight the righteous acts he had seen, but he wasn’t all-knowing like God and able to truly explain why Job was experiencing such horrendous loss and pain. He was completely ignorant of all that had transpired between God and Satan.
Reading this reminded me that less is often
better, especially when it comes to words! I can speak true and sincere
encouragement from what I have seen and not give advice or offer speculation on
things I haven’t seen and don’t know. Whether it’s commenting on world events, giving
encouragement or offering advice, let’s prayerfully speak.
Proverbs 17:27-28 The
one who has knowledge uses words with restraint,
and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.
28 Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent,
and discerning if they hold their tongues.
I don’t want to be an ignorant friend like
Eliphaz, but wise and discerning with my words! May we point others to our All-knowing
God for His truth rather than our tainted understanding!