Belonging

 In the classic children’s book, Pollyanna was paralyzed in an accident. Yet Pollyanna said she was glad she was hurt because since the accident, her aunt had called her “dear” lots of times and she hadn’t before. This made Pollyanna, an orphan, feel that she "belonged" to her aunt. 

 

Our hearts yearn to know we are loved and that we belong. Even if we don’t get that from our natural families, we have that as part of God’s family if we are believers.  God loves the world (John 3:16), but only those who are born again through faith in Jesus Christ are adopted into His family and called God’s children.

 

“Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God!”

1 John 3:1 (NKJV)

“The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God.”

Romans 8:16 (NKJV)

 

Because God loves His children, He chastens us when needed.  By His discipline and correction, we know that we are His. This chastening actually affirms our sense of belonging in God's family.

 

“For whom the LORD loves He chastens, And scourges every son whom He receives." If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons.”

Hebrews 12:6-8 (NKJV)

 

God’s also chastening helps us learn obedience. It is designed to purify us and mold us in the image of Christ. The process can be painful, but if we yield to His correction and discipline, we will blessed and God will be glorified.

 

“Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”

Hebrews 12:11 (KNJV)

 

When His hand is heavy upon us, we may be tempted to resist.  But submission is the path that brings peace of heart.  

 

"Behold, happy is the man whom God corrects; Therefore do not despise the chastening of the Almighty."

Job 5:17 (NKJV)

 

We should be glad for God's chastening because it confirms that we belong to Him, we are His children. And that belonging satisfies our deepest longings.

Finding Good Help

 Good help is hard to find. That's how the cliché goes. The part of the world in which I live, this is shockingly true. The jobs aren't scarce, and people aren't scarce. Those willing to work are rare indeed.

Jesus found a lot of people, or, rather they sought Him out. He had plenty of faces from which to choose ones in whom He would invest. He chose 12, like His Father through Jacob.

A character study of these 12 is worthy, and, if you have, or can find, a copy of Foxes Book of Martyrs, you can read one. In Mark, Matthew, and Luke, the Twelve are listed in nearly identical order. But in Mark, we are given insight into Jesus giving three of them different names.

To Simon he gave the name Peter; to James and his brother John, the sons of Zebedee, he gave the name Boanerges (that is, “sons of thunder”); Mark 3:16-17 NET

Simon becomes "Rocky", and James and John become "Ragers". You don't see it? Petros is Greek for rock, and "sons of thunder" puts James and John the "category of those who are angry". It really should be "anger" or "rage" instead of "thunder" (according to Strong's Concordance). Maybe "hot heads" would be better, but you get the idea.

The rest are set off without much explanation:

and Andrew, Philip, Bartholomew, Matthew, Thomas, James the son of Alphaeus, Thaddaeus, Simon the Zealot, and Judas Iscariot, who betrayed him. Mark 3:18-19 NET

There are some questions about Thaddaeus' name, like what was it really. There are questions about whether Simon was really a "zealot" in the historical sense. And there are questions about Bartholomew being Nathaniel from John 1.

But set those questions aside for a moment. Matthew, a tax collector, sits with a "zealot"? Even if Simon were simply a fanatic for Jewish independence, and not one of that political movement/party, he still sits with Matthew. And sit those two with a couple of "hot heads", "Rocky", and the others, what do you have? Pandemonium!

And yet, Jesus keeps them all together, they seem to be at peace with each other (those stories aren't told, probably), and they seem united in their devotion and awe of Jesus. It's remarkable, or should be.

So, when you look for a church, a Bible study, a "small group", or other religious group to join, are you looking for where you can get along? Do you tend to avoid potential confrontation by only associating with those with whom you can already get along? May I recommend a different approach?

Get involved where your Master places you, among those He places you, and don't try to "figure it out". "What are my spiritual gifts?" "What is my temperament?" "Where do I fit in?" are all about you, and miss the focus on our Savior.

I get it though. Who wants to be a part of a group that is rude, fights all the time, and where a "bully" surfaces to run things? I don't. And, sometimes, this is what churches and small groups become. And sometimes, Jesus wants to gain control of those He loves dearly, and heal those angry bullies.

With all the churches from which to choose, among all the small groups from which to be a part, how do you know which one(s) your Master is leading you to be a part? I'm sad to say there is no formula. I wish there were, because that's my temperament. But there isn't. He simply lets me know one way one time, and another way another time. It's really annoying. Honestly, for you, He may have a formula.

The point is to be obedient to the Holy Spirit when joining any group. And then, once you join, being obedient to the Spirit of Jesus in your participation. Really, that's it. He chooses who makes up the groups. He chooses ones He knows will mix together to accomplish His purposes.

He chose twelve that didn't mix well, including one who would betray Him. Use that as your "litmus test" of a group that He chooses. It's not how we would do it, which is probably part of the point.